The Importance of Intent in Our Everyday Life
(Adapted from one of Margaret Paul’s podcasts on innerbonding.com) April 2, 2025
One of the most transformative lessons of Inner Bonding® is the profound impact of our underlying intent in every thought, word, and action. At any given moment, we are faced with a fundamental choice: to act from an intention of love—nurturing ourselves and fostering deeper connections—or to operate from fear, seeking control, avoidance, or protection. This seemingly simple distinction shapes the trajectory of our emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being.
The wounded self, formed through the conditioning of early childhood, believes it is practicing self-care but, in reality, engages in behaviors that undermine genuine well-being. It is trapped in a cycle of temporary relief, mistaking momentary gratification for true healing:
⚡ It justifies unhealthy indulgences—soothing stress with chocolate cake or numbing emotions with alcohol—without addressing the root of discomfort.
⚡ It reacts to others with withdrawal, resentment, or anger, mistaking these responses for self-protection when they only deepen isolation and suffering.
⚡ It externalizes responsibility for emotions, expecting others to alleviate its pain rather than embracing self-healing.
⚡ It seeks escape through impulsive spending, gambling, or other fleeting distractions, prioritizing short-term pleasure over long-term stability.
⚡ It tolerates emotional dumping from others, fearing that setting boundaries will lead to rejection or guilt rather than recognizing that self-respect is an act of love.
In contrast, the Loving Adult navigates life with awareness, integrity, and self-compassion, recognizing that true self-care is an ongoing practice of conscious choice. It understands that well-being is cultivated through deliberate actions that honor one’s deepest needs:
🌱 It fosters inner peace by embracing self-love and engaging in Inner Bonding, rather than relying on food, alcohol, or material distractions to fill emotional voids.
🌱 It asserts clear, respectful boundaries, accepting that personal empowerment does not come from controlling others but from standing firmly in self-worth.
🌱 It processes emotions with compassion, acknowledging and releasing pain rather than projecting it onto others.
🌱 It manages stress through mindfulness and self-reflection, choosing sustainable practices over addictive coping mechanisms.
🌱 It nurtures physical health through proper rest, nourishment, and mindful financial decisions that ensure stability rather than serving as an escape.
🌱 It communicates openly, offering support to others without becoming an emotional dumping ground, preserving both personal energy and authentic connection.
At its core, the loving adult knows that the intention behind our choices is what shapes the quality of our lives. Living with an intention to love—rather than to control or avoid—leads to deep fulfillment, resilience, and a lasting sense of inner peace.
The journey of becoming a loving adult is a profound and empowering process—one that unfolds through conscious self-exploration and compassionate inner work. This transformation can be nurtured by engaging with the 6 Steps of Inner Bonding®, whether practiced independently or with the support of a skilled facilitator. Through facilitation, you can receive gentle guidance as you navigate a challenging situation, helping you deepen your self-awareness and cultivate the love, clarity, and resilience needed to thrive.
To embark on this journey, visit innerbonding.com and explore the wealth of free resources available to support your healing and growth.
For personalized guidance, reach out to Michel at 250-218-2618 or send a direct message. Your path to deeper self-love and emotional freedom begins with a single, intentional step. 🌱✨
(Adapted from one of Margaret Paul’s podcasts on innerbonding.com) April 2, 2025
One of the most transformative lessons of Inner Bonding® is the profound impact of our underlying intent in every thought, word, and action. At any given moment, we are faced with a fundamental choice: to act from an intention of love—nurturing ourselves and fostering deeper connections—or to operate from fear, seeking control, avoidance, or protection. This seemingly simple distinction shapes the trajectory of our emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being.
The wounded self, formed through the conditioning of early childhood, believes it is practicing self-care but, in reality, engages in behaviors that undermine genuine well-being. It is trapped in a cycle of temporary relief, mistaking momentary gratification for true healing:
⚡ It justifies unhealthy indulgences—soothing stress with chocolate cake or numbing emotions with alcohol—without addressing the root of discomfort.
⚡ It reacts to others with withdrawal, resentment, or anger, mistaking these responses for self-protection when they only deepen isolation and suffering.
⚡ It externalizes responsibility for emotions, expecting others to alleviate its pain rather than embracing self-healing.
⚡ It seeks escape through impulsive spending, gambling, or other fleeting distractions, prioritizing short-term pleasure over long-term stability.
⚡ It tolerates emotional dumping from others, fearing that setting boundaries will lead to rejection or guilt rather than recognizing that self-respect is an act of love.
In contrast, the Loving Adult navigates life with awareness, integrity, and self-compassion, recognizing that true self-care is an ongoing practice of conscious choice. It understands that well-being is cultivated through deliberate actions that honor one’s deepest needs:
🌱 It fosters inner peace by embracing self-love and engaging in Inner Bonding, rather than relying on food, alcohol, or material distractions to fill emotional voids.
🌱 It asserts clear, respectful boundaries, accepting that personal empowerment does not come from controlling others but from standing firmly in self-worth.
🌱 It processes emotions with compassion, acknowledging and releasing pain rather than projecting it onto others.
🌱 It manages stress through mindfulness and self-reflection, choosing sustainable practices over addictive coping mechanisms.
🌱 It nurtures physical health through proper rest, nourishment, and mindful financial decisions that ensure stability rather than serving as an escape.
🌱 It communicates openly, offering support to others without becoming an emotional dumping ground, preserving both personal energy and authentic connection.
At its core, the loving adult knows that the intention behind our choices is what shapes the quality of our lives. Living with an intention to love—rather than to control or avoid—leads to deep fulfillment, resilience, and a lasting sense of inner peace.
The journey of becoming a loving adult is a profound and empowering process—one that unfolds through conscious self-exploration and compassionate inner work. This transformation can be nurtured by engaging with the 6 Steps of Inner Bonding®, whether practiced independently or with the support of a skilled facilitator. Through facilitation, you can receive gentle guidance as you navigate a challenging situation, helping you deepen your self-awareness and cultivate the love, clarity, and resilience needed to thrive.
To embark on this journey, visit innerbonding.com and explore the wealth of free resources available to support your healing and growth.
For personalized guidance, reach out to Michel at 250-218-2618 or send a direct message. Your path to deeper self-love and emotional freedom begins with a single, intentional step. 🌱✨
The Wounded Self: An Inner Bonding® Perspective on the Ego March 19, 2025
(Adapted from one of Margaret Paul’s free podcasts)
The wounded self emerges when the true self—your inner child—is not seen, valued, or cherished and instead experiences physical, emotional, sexual, and/or spiritual abuse by being physically hurt, violated, abandoned, yelled at, criticized, or neglected. These painful moments create trauma that gives rise to false beliefs, which can deeply affect your current life, manifesting as:
• Anxiety
• Depression
• Guilt
• Shame
• Anger
• Aloneness
• Emptiness
• Addictions
• Dysfunctional relationships
Over time, these emotional states can contribute to serious physical health issues, including:
• Muscle tension and pain
• Sleep disturbances
• Irritable bowel syndrome (IBS)
• Heart disease and hypertension
• Substance abuse
• Obesity
• Diabetes
• Headaches and migraines
• Panic attacks
• TMJ disorders
Finding a Way Forward
Healing from these conditions is possible by cultivating a spiritually connected, loving adult who can identify and challenge the false beliefs that sustain the wounded self. Through this process, you can break free from the cycle of pain and create a resilient, empowered sense of self.
(Adapted from one of Margaret Paul’s free podcasts)
The wounded self emerges when the true self—your inner child—is not seen, valued, or cherished and instead experiences physical, emotional, sexual, and/or spiritual abuse by being physically hurt, violated, abandoned, yelled at, criticized, or neglected. These painful moments create trauma that gives rise to false beliefs, which can deeply affect your current life, manifesting as:
• Anxiety
• Depression
• Guilt
• Shame
• Anger
• Aloneness
• Emptiness
• Addictions
• Dysfunctional relationships
Over time, these emotional states can contribute to serious physical health issues, including:
• Muscle tension and pain
• Sleep disturbances
• Irritable bowel syndrome (IBS)
• Heart disease and hypertension
• Substance abuse
• Obesity
• Diabetes
• Headaches and migraines
• Panic attacks
• TMJ disorders
Finding a Way Forward
Healing from these conditions is possible by cultivating a spiritually connected, loving adult who can identify and challenge the false beliefs that sustain the wounded self. Through this process, you can break free from the cycle of pain and create a resilient, empowered sense of self.
Inner Bonding® February 25, 2025
A simple yet profound re-parenting process that invites participants to connect spiritually with their inner loving adult. This loving adult is responsible for nurturing and caring for your inner child, while also uncovering the false beliefs created by wounded parts of yourself—beliefs designed to protect, defend, avoid, and control.
Your inner child represents your true soul self, embodying the essence of who you were when you first came into this life. It reflects your divine spark and your unique gifts.
Key qualities of your inner child:
• Immortal: Your inner child is timeless.
• Expressive: Communicates through both feelings and words.
• Your inner guidance: Instantly tells you whether you are loving or abandoning yourself.
Your inner child also serves as a powerful emotional radar, alerting you through feelings and physical sensations when someone is being open or closed, truthful or deceptive, or whether a situation feels safe or dangerous.
Learning to listen to your inner child is crucial for your emotional safety and well-being.
To explore how an Inner Bonding facilitation can support your journey toward becoming a resilient, loving adult, please reach out to me via DM, email at [email protected], or text/phone at 250-218-2618.
For more information on Inner Bonding, visit innerbonding.com, where you can access free resources and podcasts to help you learn this transformative, user-friendly process.
A simple yet profound re-parenting process that invites participants to connect spiritually with their inner loving adult. This loving adult is responsible for nurturing and caring for your inner child, while also uncovering the false beliefs created by wounded parts of yourself—beliefs designed to protect, defend, avoid, and control.
Your inner child represents your true soul self, embodying the essence of who you were when you first came into this life. It reflects your divine spark and your unique gifts.
Key qualities of your inner child:
• Immortal: Your inner child is timeless.
• Expressive: Communicates through both feelings and words.
• Your inner guidance: Instantly tells you whether you are loving or abandoning yourself.
Your inner child also serves as a powerful emotional radar, alerting you through feelings and physical sensations when someone is being open or closed, truthful or deceptive, or whether a situation feels safe or dangerous.
Learning to listen to your inner child is crucial for your emotional safety and well-being.
To explore how an Inner Bonding facilitation can support your journey toward becoming a resilient, loving adult, please reach out to me via DM, email at [email protected], or text/phone at 250-218-2618.
For more information on Inner Bonding, visit innerbonding.com, where you can access free resources and podcasts to help you learn this transformative, user-friendly process.
